From "extending Middle School" to "early college?"
I felt the need to wrap up this blog/book with some written thoughts. While a picture is worth a 1000 words, actual words can be very helpful too.
This journey began [cue the flutes] ♪ ♫ 'oh...so very long ago'....with a mother who had a "bossy" little girl with no real school-friends, and a mind that moved much faster than she could handle. She was talkative, and snarky. In school, she did "well enough" but wasn't *excelling* in a way that the Mother knew she should.
I spent TIME with Haley. Going over relatively complex concepts in 5th grade (as a supplement to her intermediate school science). Concepts such as the cardiac cycle. Embryology. And action potentials in the nervous system. She gobbled these concepts up, with almost full understanding after a single explanation.
That could mean one of two things: I was an AWESOME teacher. Or she was a BRILLIANT student.
It was likely a combination of both.
As I watched the light dim in her eyes as she began acquiescing to the "expectations" of "the institution," I knew I had to do something. First I tried to argue *within* the system. With teacher changes, school leadership challenges, and peers in puberty, it just made more sense to try a "different thing."
In RETROSPECT I realize that we did was essentially pull Haley out of intermediate school, had her skip middle school, and begin high-school at age 10. At age 10, Haley would have been starting 6th grade had we not pulled her out. My rationale for doing so at THIS juncture was - if it "didn't work out" I could just put her back into public school seamlessly as a "repeat 6th grader" (who would then be age 11 starting 6th grade for the 2nd time, and all of her "school-friends" would have moved on to middle-school. This scenario allows her to still be age appropriate, and ALSO not have to "see" old friends "move up" without her.
However, once Haley was out of traditional school, she was able to move at her own rate. And she gobbled up information quickly. So I presented her with MORE information. And she moved rapidly....
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I say this path is convoluted because I have had to adjust, and readjust my thoughts, plans, and ideas constantly. And along the way, I've had many angels that taught me how to read the 'tea-leaves' of giftedness. Everything seemed to happen by happenstance. The only constant that I was sure of was....my girl was doing well, and we are on the right path. Even if curves in the path were unpredictable.
For instance, She was motivated to take the ACT. I was against. Why take it? But SHE insisted. A homeschool buddy in Hybrid School was taking it, and she wanted to have that experience as well. So she took a practice ACT, and did very well. Much to my surprise, actually. Her ultimate score gained her entry into the Talent Searches and their programs.
Likewise, SHE was motivated to take geometry on her own during the summer. An entire year of geometry (107 lessons) in 12 weeks!! With a tutor, she did it. Who am I to hold her back?!!
Soon, it became more apparent to other Mom's in my homeschool circle that Haley was "asynchronous" in her development. A term I have since come to learn is associated with many profoundly gifted children - Haley included. So we had her evaluated by a psychologist. And with her scores, we felt the urgency to really "figure educational thing" out for our girl.
This is when we first started talking about "early college."
But quickly dismissed it because of her...."asynchrony" and the issues we were observing therein. How could she go off to college if she can't even remember to brush her hair (for instance)? Much of college "success" is non-academic. She may be smart, but she's still 12. And at times, behaves like she's 8.
The way I saw it, she probably could use an EXTRA year to mature to maximize her success at an "away" school.
So I actually "officially" told her that she was a SEVENTH grader (again) as we were
"extending middle school" because of this need to mature more well-roundedly. Afterall, as mentioned, she was 12/13 which is actually the perfectly appropriate age of a 7th grader. And why not take "advantage" of the fact that she was 'young.' Other PG/HG moms offered up a pearl of wisdom when I posed this consideration to the forum: You always err on the side of maintaining options for your child when you are unclear. And younger = more options. So that's what I did...
...and it was a HUGE stress relief. We went from being in HIGH SCHOOL next year, so having an entire year left to prepare. There were things that "needed to be done" in 8th grade in order to meet an academically competitive timeline for Ivy application readiness by Junior year (3 short years later!!). Now we had 4 years. And a Haley in FOUR years will be more competitive than that same Haley in THREE. She will have an extra year of accomplishments. More time equals more "cool stuff" to brag about. Options preserved.
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The thing about great homeschool educational plans is...
...they frequently change.
No sooner than I "declared" Haley a 7th grader (halfway through 8th grade) she opened up about how annoying preparing for college has been (already! I'm like, "girl, you ain't seen nuthin' yet!!). She made it clear that she was not interested in doing (honestly) what "it takes" to go to an Ivy. She wasn't sure she wanted to spend the next few years "in college prep mode."
This was VERY concerning to me.
So I changed my ENTIRE plan (again!)!
Many of the activities she was involved in (fencing, debate, Olympiads, math competitions, STUCO, school paper, 2nd foreign language, even harp and orchestra) were done with college in mind. I'm a very goal-oriented person...and my goal was to create a curriculum that was Ivy competitive. Not that my aspiration was for my child to attend an Ivy, but rather to PREPARE her to be competitive so that option remains. And in doing so, she'd be competitive for any school, plus scholarships! Perfect plan!!
But with that plan "scrapped" we stopped everything non-essential - to regroup. What DO you like? What don't you like? What do you miss now that its gone? How much was me (and my homeschool 'strategy' and how much was something genuine to Haley's desires)?
After the dust settled, I was able to refocus on "what are we going to do next year?" Which classes? What is our goal. SHE doesn't want to "drag this out." This college prep. This educational journey. "Why does it need to take so long?" she asked.
So I decided to go ahead and credential some of her knowledge. We signed her up for a
College Algebra CLEP (which she passed). I went up to the
Community College to investigate having her take math and science up there (which would be cheaper than the private tutors and would credential the courses). And marinated on the idea of dual credits vs early college admission.
Pros vs Cons.
Pros:
The student has the opportunity to take more than 6-8 credit hours.
The student can take remediation courses if necessary.
The student is DONE with high-school.
The student is eligible for *college* programs and scholarships, etc.
Credits obtained count towards a BS or BA.
(for MY child) her classmates will be older and more interested in their coursework.
Cons
She would
need to take and pass the Texas Success Initiative (TSI) which is another hoop (she did this with no problem, so it was actually nothing to really worry about).
There may be some "participation rules ages" (whereby the child "becomes ineligible upon high-school graduation) with regards to math competitions, Olympiads, and social clubs like Jack and Jill, Rhoers, and Mocha Moms.
The grades obtained COUNT!!!
She cannot go "away" so her options are limited to community college (initially) and then (since she'll only be 15 yo) to colleges/universities in the DFW metroplex (so Ivys are out, and West Coast is out).
Freshman scholarships are forfeited (potentially). But with the local available options charging in at about $1000/month, this isn't a HUGE con.
Potentially, she could be "rejected" from her current social circles.
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The PROS outweigh the CONS!! Onward to College!!!